ASAKE OKIN

First of all, go down low... Couple of months ago, I wrote about making the first move in Kwanza and now…… Born in a country where men making the first move is the norm ( I mean guy toasting the girl ). I have always waited for the guy to ask me out. 90% guys I really like end up not asking me out. When the ones you don’t like ask you out and you turn them down, some say you are too choosy Few months ago, I met an amazing guy, You know those forever-like kind of guy ? We instantly clicked and I am certain we will make a good couple. It has been 8months and 16days, he hasn't made a move. Asake, do you think I should ask him out? Till next time, don’t be afraid to make the first move, it is either a “yes or a no” don’t settle for maybe. Kwanza: means first Keji: means two or second.

It started like a joke, initially we didn't take it serious but later we couldn't control it, we became inseparable, there was hardly anyone who didn't know we were together even if they had met only one of us, we thought the same way, talked the same way, I was his common sense. I taught him all he knew about relationship and He taught me patience. The road was smooth, each time we had an argument or misunderstanding as soon as we sighted one another, the misunderstanding was over. I was always quick to beg because he was a novice in relationships, then one day we had a major argument, he walked out and none of us was ready to resolve or take the blame( in Akon voice) a week turned to two, three, four then five. Before the argument I was bereaved and he didn't understand, all he wanted was my attention which I couldn't give him. It boils back to experience. I called him up one day, to inform him I was travelling to Chicago the next day. He was shocked I was a